No guessing. Just begging.
Since Masturbation May is about to wrap up... I had to talk about doing it together.
Let’s make one thing very clear:
👉 Most people are not bad at touching their partner
But mutual masturbation can get predictable (unless you don't already do it... in that case, it's hot as heck). But often it becomes the...
Same speed
Same pressure
Same routine
And your partner?
Their body adapts fast.
So if you want to actually get better results (and reactions)…
here's some tips to change it up
MASTURBATE HIM — Tips That Actually Work
✔ Start slower than you think
Most people go too fast, too soon.
Build up gradually—this increases sensitivity and makes everything feel stronger later.
✔ Use lubricant early (not halfway through)
This is a game changer.
smoother motion
less friction fatigue
more natural sensation
(A good water-based or stroker-friendly lube here makes a noticeable difference)
✔ Switch grip and rhythm intentionally
Instead of one motion the whole time:
loosen grip → tighten slightly
slow strokes → shorter, faster ones
add a twist or change angle
👉 Variation keeps the nervous system engaged
✔ Let your hand “rest” while something else works
This is where toys shine.
a stroker adds consistent texture and pressure
your hands can focus elsewhere
👉 It creates a layered experience instead of one-note stimulation
✔ Tease the finish (don’t rush it)
Slow down right as things build.
Pause briefly. Then restart.
That tension means a stronger payoff.
MASTURBATE HER — Tips That Change Everything
✔ Don’t go straight to the most sensitive spot
This is the number one mistake.
Start around it first:
inner thighs
hips
lower stomach
👉 This builds anticipation and increases responsiveness
✔ Light touch first, pressure later
Sensitivity builds over time.
Start soft, then gradually increase pressure.
(This is where a small palm-held toy or light vibration can help ease into it)
✔ Stay consistent once you find what works
Switching too much at the wrong time can break momentum.
When you get a good response—stay there
✔ Pay attention to rhythm, not just location
Small changes matter:
circular vs side-to-side
steady vs pulsing
👉 Different patterns equals different nerve responses
✔ Combine sensations (this is the secret)
Hands + toy
External + internal
Touch + restraint
Even something simple like gently holding their wrists in place
can heighten focus and sensation.
The Real Upgrade
It’s not about being more aggressive
or more intense
It’s about being more intentional, and tuned into your partner.
That’s what your partner actually feels.
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